Upset overweight girlfriend, please help?

My girlfriend is quite overweight which I don’t mind, she tries to loose weight but I would never pressure her to anyway, the other night we were having sex and I had to push her stomach up a bit to get in she quickly pulled away from me and started crying. It’s been going on for days now, she won’t let me touch her, she’s been crying, she refuses to eat. I offered to help her lose weight but she wont let me. What should I do, how can I convince her that shes fine the way she is.

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13 Responses to “Upset overweight girlfriend, please help?”

  1. B�b�. said:

    Woah she sounds huge then. Just be supportive of what she decides to do.

  2. Jessi said:

    Let me tell u that I wish more people were like u! Just because ur fat dosent mean ur not a good or attractive person! Just tell her u like her the way she is and she dosent need to change for anyone! She may be getting bullied at work or something maybe that’s why she’s getting depressed about it

  3. Sara Rivard said:

    Well first of all you need to do something super sweet for her because she must feel horrible. Then you need to give her time, you are the last person she wants help from. If you are close to her best friend I would ask for her help…….. However only go to her if you think she knows the story you don’t want to go tell her something your girlfriend didn’t want anyone to know. She will need you for comfort but choose your words wisely.

  4. Miss Marlboro said:

    As a girl who is also sort of self-conscious about my body, I know that there is probably nothing you can say to make her feel better. I would try to make a conscious effort to compliment her more. I know it’s frustrating but that’s about all that would help.

    (Maybe if she does her hair or clothes differently one day go, “God you’re so hot.” or “That sexy skirt makes me wanna ravish you”)

    Or you could cook for her and secretly make everything low-calorie. Or take all the unhealthy food out of the house one day.

    Eventually she’ll get fed up enough with her body issues to lose weight (like me) but first she actually has to be ready to make a change.

  5. It's at it said:

    At this point it’s not about how comfortable YOU are with her weight, she’s obviously not happy with herself. So, let her know that you love her whether she’s thin, skinny, pink or blue.But that you understand that she’s got to love herself first. Tell her know that you will do whatever you can to support her in any way she needs. She needs to be able to talk to someone (professionally, I mean) or maybe even suggest couples therapy. Whatever you think she’ll go for. But the MOST IMPORTANT thing is that you make her realize that she’s loved unconditionally and has a support system for whatever she decides to do. But something HAS to be done cause self-pity is much ore destructive than overeating or not exercising.

  6. kacie said:

    Tell her how much you like her the way she is and maybe suggest diets if thats what she wants. I know South Beach and Atkins have proven to help many overweight people. Also you guys should do activities that involve exercising together : maybe go for walks or join the gym together or something so you guys can spend time together and show her how much you want to help her so she feels better about herself.

  7. Louis Seize said:

    Having been in a similar situation as your girlfriend myself, I sympathize with what a difficult position you’re in. It sounds as if severe depression or some sort of past physical trauma is the real issue (both for her weight gain and her reaction to it), which all the physical assurance in the world can’t help. That said, keep trying to stay in physical contact with her, in as non-invasive a way as possible, just light brushes on her arm, touching her hair,etc. Nothing that could possibly be construed as threatening or possessive (good luck with that, by the way, it’s a tough area to navigate). Don’t offer to help her lose weight anymore. The best thing you can do is listen to her. She probably really needs someone to talk to. Don’t offer advice or solutions. Basically, you’re going to have to make the sacrifice that all guys need to make occassionally when a girlfriend is inconsolable- you’re going to have be her best friend who can listen for hours on end for awhile before being her boyfriend. For some reason, she’s shutting herself down physically from contact and feeling (again, both for the weight gain and her reaction to you). What she needs is a safe place, and a safe person, to figure out why with. Don’t bring her weight up directly- try to get into conversation with her as casually as possible- be optimistic but concerned. In short, you need to think like a girl. I don’t envy your position at all, and it’s going to be tough for you as well. Just stay as strong as you can- both for yourself and for her. All the best:)

  8. ChemoAngel said:

    She needs to start learning how to accept her body. I have TWO Such Stomachs, she needs to take a deep breath and relax.

  9. Jake Lee said:

    Don’t offer! Just make her. Not eating will probably do her some good. Shes probably upset because you’ve mistaken her fat rolls for her pussy. A man needs to keep his girl in line which means taking away all the junk food and telling her to get her fat ass to the gym.

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