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How to tell someone you love to stop smoking?

My Dad smokes all the time, he always tell me and my siblings never ever do them. But I know that smoking leads to lung cancer and eventually death, I am very worried about his life style, I see many cigarette packs in the car and I can get the guts to tell him to stop. What do I do?

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10 Responses to “How to tell someone you love to stop smoking?”

  1. Alex said :

    Talk to him about your concerns. It’s all you can do. If they want to quit then they will start to try and then you can lend all of your support. If they do not want to quit, then all you’ll do is make that person rebel against you and find ways to smoke just to spite you.

  2. Taboo Baboon said :

    “Dad, you should stop smoking because it is bad for you.” There you go.

  3. Murder on Zidane's Floor said :

    I had exactly the same problem with my Dad, until he stopped of his own accord. To be honest, even with the well-documented health risks, smoking is something people are very lassez-faire about when it comes to their own well-being.

    I think you do need to be upfront with him. You need to tell him somehow that it is bothering you, and that you are worried about how much he smokes. You may be surprised at the reaction.

    However saying nothing isn’t the answer.

  4. strawberry tea said :

    You can’t tell him to, but you can ask. Say you hate the worry that it might end his life early, and that you’re willing to be at his side throughout the process of giving up. If saying this face to face would be uncomfortable, write him a letter and on the back leave some phone numbers and websites that could also help and support him.

    Usually I’d say that to smoke it someone’s personal choice, but I’ve known enough kids to be hurt by their parents smoking to know that it’s a different situation when children are involved.

    Let him know how you feel.

  5. Arianne Ellis said :

    just be like dad if u keep smoking its going to kill you and ask him to please stop for you and ur siblings

  6. PK said :

    Say it from the heart. In my case it would go something like this: “Dad, you raised use to be smart and healthy people. You also taught us to not smoke because you know that we would die from it, so why don’t you take your own advice so we can be a happy and healthy family together. I care about you as much as you care about me so imagine how you would feel if I started smoking a lot and that is how I’m feeling right now. I don’t want you to die, Dad, and I don’t want you to leave us early just because of smoking. For us, please find a way to kick this habit”

    Really corny and sappy, I know, but it usually gets the job done and that’s the only goal at hand. I find really honest and sappy sympathy to touch people’s hearts and change them a more profounding and efficient method in persuasion for these types of situations. It’s also another way they understand that you’re being serious and sincere about it otherwise you wouldn’t have just made a fool of yourself with such corny and sappy dialogue.

  7. Haz said :

    My Mum has smoked since the age of 15, she’s 61 now.

    I pleaded with her a s child terrified she would die, made no difference. As an adult I’ve tried bribery of all kinds and to be honest 99% of the time she gets wildly angry and sees it as none of my business.

    In the end I stopped trying, I made her a promise that I wouldn’t pass anymore comment or try to get her stop on one condition. It’s going to sound harsh this but I told her if she dies young as a direct result from her smoking ie lung cancer, she is under no circumstances to voice any regret about no giving up to me. No regret, no panic or anguish to be laid on my shoulders because of her choices.

    Her response was to say ‘fair enough’. I’m not sure guilt trips work …they have to want to do it themselves. I think giving up is hard for everyone but we have to acknowledge some smokers are hopelessly addicted and it is an emotional crutch as well as a physical addiction. My Mum always cites stress of some kind as to why she can’t give up..who doesn’t have stress? *shrugs shoulders*

  8. farplaces said :

    Oh great…here we go again…!

    Why do people believe so much tripe about claims that smoking does cause cancer…? How many real old men and women die that never gave up smoking…? Does anyone realize that when all the no-smoking crap began that there was no valid research ever completed…? Then, when publicity changed people’s attitudes, second-hand smoke became the issue and, again, with no valid research having been done. And now that the world believes that second hand smoke is also a killer, the ban for smoking in various places in all the states has reached the point where it now becomes an issue to have it illegal to smoke outside a person’s own home in their own back yard…!

    Now these femme-nazi activist groups are complaining about “third-hand smoke”…smoke residue found on carpets, curtains, etc., in homes and all other places…

    How long before it becomes illegal to have sex without supervision because improper sexual activities can transmit life threatening illneses…? Why not ban automobiles because auto accidents take more lives than smoking cigarettes…? Why not ban alcohol because consuming alcohol takes more lives than smoking cigarettes…?

    If smoking was a guarranteed killer then why not just ban smoking equally across the country as well as make it illegal to grow tobacco. That will never happen because, like drugs, there is too much money involved, mostly illegal profits…

    Does smoking cause lung cancer…? Well yes…it “MAY” cause cancer for some people, but obviously not for all people. So why should laws for some be forced upon those others…? Burning a pile of leaves produces more smoke in a few hours than a person smoking for a lifetime, yet, controlled burning is permissable in almost every state, isn’t it…? I can list many many things that produce smoke that people breathe every day which are far more of pollution than smoking a cigarette…

    Now, if your dad is a chain-smoker, it’s obviously he really is heading for trouble in his lungs, in his throat, or both places… Asking him to quit won’t work. He has probably already tried quitting and has failed…

    Try a different approach then…cigarettes cost about $4.00 a pack now…$4.00 a day, $28.00 a week, $120.00 a month, $1460.00 a year…!

    Hit him where it hurts the most…his WALLET…! He knows it as well as you know it. Just remember, he needs help and support; not statistical rhetoric filled with political and femme nazi movement activities. Instead, help him with suggestions away from the so-called fix-it programs which rarely work. Suggest thiings as replacing a pack of cigarettes in his shirt pocket with a roll of lifesavers…try sucking lollipops instead of smoking some times…cut cigarettes in half when buying a pack…suggest for every day he does not smoke a pack, he can put $4.00 in cash in a coffee container to be used for a private vacation of his very own or to buy something he has always wanted for himself… There are many ways to help him with not hindering him if you think about it…

    Meanwhile, the money saving approach is now your best approach until a fix-it drug is available…

    Good luck, he needs it…

  9. iWill Stay♥ said :

    just tell him…

  10. Flepix Uganit said :

    Don’t·            




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