Would you stop smoking if your husband or wife asked you to ?
My husband asked me to stop smoking and he has tried many times. The only thing different this time is that he was going to stop drinking. As long as me and his friend does not smoke he will not drink. Now he is telling me that he is not giving drinking up for good just until the urge to smoke is gone. I dont think that is fair. But would you quit if your loved one asked you too?
February 1st, 2011 at 4:25 pm
YES!!!!
I quit many years ago because my soon to be wife did not like it and she wanted me to be healthy!!!
February 1st, 2011 at 4:59 pm
No I would quit for myself. You can’t quit unless you want to.
February 1st, 2011 at 5:13 pm
You cannot have competitions with addictions! It NEVER works!
For him, cut down on the booze, for you…..www.whyquit.com..good luck!
February 1st, 2011 at 5:45 pm
I’ve tried and it never sticks.
February 1st, 2011 at 6:41 pm
I stopped smoking because he asked me to, we had been going out a few weeks at the time. It took him 20 years to stop drinking, with me asking him regularly to do so.
February 1st, 2011 at 6:42 pm
is your husband not worth the effort to stop sticking that nasty cancer ridden shit in your mouth ?
i would walk if i meant less than a pack of fags
February 1st, 2011 at 7:41 pm
I would quit for myself because smoking is gross, unhealthy and you people don’t realize how bad you stink! yuck.
February 1st, 2011 at 8:25 pm
I don’t smoke I don’t do drugs I drink occasionally and i know how to have a GOOD TIME , I’m good at it too!
February 1st, 2011 at 8:32 pm
do i smoke after sex?
i’ve never really checked, love.
February 1st, 2011 at 9:02 pm
You can only really quit for yourself. My wife was patient enough to tolerate my smoking for over 3 years before I quit on my own. She never complained a bit even though she hated it. If she had been bugging me about it, I may have never quit. I think it really works best when it is 100 percent your own choice to quit, and if you start up again you don’t have to worry about people being disappointed.
February 1st, 2011 at 9:57 pm
umm.. to be honest i have been trying to quit for years. and every reason was for someone else. you have to really want to quit for yourself and be determined for it to work. join a cessation group. and also drinking is another ball park entirely. go visit the doctor together and get some tips. if he is an alcoholic go to AA with him.
it is best to cut out all unhealthy habits, and instead of using drinking against your smoking you both will need to be a support for each other. relapses are common when quitting anything, so it isn’t about the relapse but about how you get back to your goal rather than letting it set you back.
just start with a doctor visit for the both of you. good luck!
February 1st, 2011 at 10:01 pm
Mary, I would stop smoking for my own health, which I did a long time ago. I had a breathing problem, I had always been very fit and ran for miles, then one day I found I couldn’t WALK to the bottom of our street, only 8 houses on it, without gasping. I thought something was wrong and so I went to see my doctor who after an examination ask me what sort o flowers I liked, I told him, and he said that if I didn’t stop smoking NOW I wouldn’t see the flowers he bought for me as they would be on my grave withing 6 months. I didn’t believe him and went home to light up again, I coughed and coughed and nearly passed out. I put ALL my tobacco on the top of a cupboard with the statement I will never let another cigarette, cigar or pipe pass my lips ever again. That was in 1982, I’m still here and feeling very fit again. I don’t do any running now but I feel much younger than I am.
So Mary give up for your own sake as well as your family’s. It doesn’t matter if your hubby don’t give up or wont give up his fags or beer, you do it for yourself and I wish you a very lot of good luck with it and hope to see yo on here in 20 years time.
February 1st, 2011 at 10:24 pm
Yes!! i have given up smoking…that i have done it so many times is a different matter altogether.
February 1st, 2011 at 10:42 pm
I never started so its not an issue…and neither has he…
HOWEVER…we have each had our drinking binges and asked eachother to please slow down because ti ca hurt; we also have agreed that we want minimal drinking in front of our children.
It would seem that if this was an issue, than he would have addressed it soonerthan later n the marriage…
but knowing how unhealthy it is…I definitely would have quit if I started and was asked to quit…
you save money and years of your life…seems silly to keep doing it
February 1st, 2011 at 11:25 pm
When my husband and i met, he smoked. He found out that i didn’t so the second week he quit. I am thankful everyday.
February 1st, 2011 at 11:38 pm
I quit because my wife asked me to but she also quit when i did.
February 2nd, 2011 at 12:01 am
no, there has to be some middle ground though. my bf drinks, and I smoke. We agreed when we got together, I will not bi*** about his drinking, and he will not bi*** about my smoking. He met me that way, and thats the way it is, and the way it’s going to stay. we came to that simple compromise, and we have a wonderful relationship!